March marks a funny time of year for me – because this time last year, I was just getting myself into a very interesting, tricky, exciting relationship situation. A love triangle, if you will.
March to September 2011 was filled with thrilling moments as I struggled to carefully maneuver between a timeline of two men: LA Boy & a longtime, faraway friend and former fling.
In reality, the era was not about finding love or dates in two different guys. For me, it was a time of learning. A time just for myself and my own best interests. I think I will always associate those months with feelings of strength, security and desirablity in who I was.
And as you may remember, eventually my lessons added up and romantically it made sense who I was supposed to be with. (Just as with any famous love triangle, no?)
So for fun: a little Draft revisited from 6/15/11, with edits throughout July 2011. Partially fictionalized to protect all hearts.
Alls well that ends well?
How To Be In A Love Triangle
Disclaimer: Please do not try this at home.
- Fall for two different guys on opposite coasts of the country
- Find their personalities and histories different in almost every way imaginable
- Upon a suggestion from a very wise Ex, refuse to commit to either until the same commitment is promised to you
- Ride the roller-coaster as emotions and contact come and go in waves from each party
- Ensure neither visits at a time to conflict with the other
- Avoid any mention of this
- Over-read Astrology compatibilities
- Recognize that real friends won’t pick any “Team” – except your’s
- Laugh and then cry when both of them send you thoughtful birthday gifts
- Fear hurting either man
- Fear hurting yourself
- Wonder which guy you will reveal the situation to first..wonder what that will mean
- Ask yourself if this is the real definition of “dating”
- Shake your head when people demand why you don’t just meet a guy in your own state
- Panic when you realize the situation could potentially go on for a long time
- Ponder if you really imagine much of a future with either of them
- Decide to keep playing single with your friends for as long as you can
- Understand that no one really cares about your “white girl problems“